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My son has ADHD and even when on medication is very distractible. We are working on building independence but his work product is just not what I know it can be when it does it alone. When I work with him I don't give him answers but just keep him on task. Any suggestions for helping with working independently?

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  • The best tool I have found for my ADHD-Inattentive daughter is a timer.  This was helpful when she was in 4th and 5th grade especially.  It seemed she could focus for 20-25min at a time, if she knew she got a 10 min break after that.  While she was this age, sitting on an exercise ball at a table also helped tremendously, especially for math. She is now in 7th grade and does better focusing.

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      • Mariel Howsepian
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      • 3 mths ago
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      Melanie Ross I often use a timer with my  public school students. They respond to the challenge of having to get something done before the timer goes off. I also think that using a timer helps a child understand that they only have to do something for a limited time, not forever, so it can a)help them see that they shouldn't dawdle, b)help them see that there will be an end to doing something they don't enjoy, or c)help a parent (or teacher) keep a lesson from running longer than the child's attention span.

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  • Hello, I think you can use independent activity books (binder, folder) anything. What this is that you can put 1 worksheet page that you know for sure that your child can work on independently. Very very simple activity (even below grade level). Have your child complete this independently and then raise hand/call for you when he is done. Once he does this independently you can eventually add 2 sheets, 3 sheets, then you can also increase in difficulty level. Hope that helps! All the best.

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  • Oh my! I actually thought to myself when I saw your post; “did I post that?!” Lol I’ve had the same trouble, my son is in 3rd grade, and he wants me to sit with him and do every single problem along with him. A timer flips him out, he totally panicks. For him, the only thing that works is something he really wants to have or do as a reward. That makes his focus go laser sharp! 🤣 This is such a labor of love! Blessings for you as you continue on! It’s not for the weak to be sure!

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    • Steph Boyd besides mine being in 1st Grade, I think wee have the same child! 

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      • Steph Boyd
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      September Nelson  Really!! What DO you do to inspire? He’s my oldest and is setting a poor example for the others, so even though they aren’t ADD/ADHD, they are learning to detest school. 🤔🤨😱

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    • Steph Boyd mine (A) is a twin and his brother (C) has no problems. It is hard to give A rewards when C doesn't get them too so it has been a challenge. 

      I do sit with A most of the time to keep him on task. I do a LOT of praising him over every little thing he accomplishes. He HATES to write, but LOVES reading and math. He has better handwriting than his brother so I compliment him on that. I give hugs. I tell him he can read a book of he writes x number of sentences. I try to keep positive consequences a much as possible, but some nights it takes 3 hours to write 5 sentences... that is when the taking away of privileges happen. I give deadlines and if they are not met, there are consequences. 

      What do you do? 

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